Asked by Cookie, Texas
My husband had major surgery and while on pain meds in the hospital he started developing anger issues. They lowered his pain meds saying this was a side effect for some people. He is out of the hospital and no longer on any meds but he still seems to be unreasonable and angry much more than is typical for him. Is this normal? Is it due to the drugs? I feel like he has become someone other than the man I married.
Mental Health Expert
Dr. Charles Raison
Emory University Medical School
I am very concerned about your husband's situation. I hope it has resolved in the period between when you wrote your question and my somewhat delayed answer. Let me use your situation as a chance to talk about how a psychiatrist (or at least this psychiatrist!) would try to figure out what is going on.
I think it is very important to start with the most serious/dangerous possibilities first, because if one of these turns out to be true then rapid action is definitely needed. So let's start by assuming that your husband is not usually an angry individual and that the anger really started with the administration of the pain medications. This is not uncommon, as the folks at the hospital told you. If it had gone away when the pain meds were stopped, or shortly thereafter, I'd have no further worries and my advice would be for your husband to avoid these types of medicines whenever possible.
But his odd, angry behavior has continued and that's what is worrisome. It suggests that the pain medications may have started something, but they can't be the whole story. Or it might not have been the pain meds -- they might be a "red herring." It might have been something that happened during the surgery.
Let's assume (and of course I don't know) that your husband doesn't have a substance abuse problem, so it is very unlikely that he is secretly still taking the pain medications. Assuming this, there are really only two primary possibilities for his behavior. The first is that something medical or neurological has happened to him and this has changed his behavior. The most common examples of these sorts of things would be a stroke, the development of seizures or the new-onset of a glandular problem. The first thing I would do if I were in charge of the case would be to have doctors carefully check each of these possibilities.
If he turns out not to have one of these organic problems, then the next most likely thing is that something about the hospital experience has initiated a psychiatric problem, specifically a manic state -- which would be the most common cause for behavior such as you describe. If he is talking rapidly, not sleeping and making risky and poor decisions, these would also be manic symptoms. But all these symptoms could also be caused by a new medical or neurological problem.
Finally, if your husband is older, it is possible that he was gradually developing a dementia that has been accelerated by the strain of the hospital experience.
I have no idea whether any of these possibilities would turn out to explain your husband's specific situation. The larger take-home point is that whenever an adult has a sudden personality change this is likely to reflect either a medical or psychiatric emergency. If you haven't done so please get your husband medical and/or psychiatric help immediately.
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