- There are evolutionary reasons jealousy is healthy in relationships
- When jealousy is "chronic, debilitating and overt," then it's a problem
- Too much jealousy can be a sign of insecurity in the relationship
(upwave)When I first met my (now) husband, Andy, he had a close female friend. I'll call her Donna. Donna and Andy went to the movies together. They went out for dinner. They caught a baseball game with another couple -- while I was out of town. I asked to meet Donna many times, but kept getting the runaround for one reason or another. "I think it's weird that I haven't met her yet, and I think she's deciding if she's in love with you," I told Andy. He said I was crazy. That they were friends. "I know you might be 'just friends' with her," I replied. "But I don't think she's 'just friends' with you." Jealousy boiled up inside me.